• Kelly Castillo

Breastfeeding is a Piece of Cake, Right?

Updated: Aug 21, 2020

Okay, so we all know that breastfeeding is definitely not a piece of cake. It’s tough, for new moms and seasoned moms alike. It can be painful, time-consuming, and just downright annoying. Let’s also mention that if we don’t do the research ourselves, we will probably end up bottle-feeding and using formula because doctors don’t really volunteer any information or talk about the reality of breastfeeding. Which is that it can suck. Like really suck. And a lot of us give up or just don’t quite figure it out and supplement. There’s nothing wrong with that, of course. When the need to feed our babies is there, all of this doesn’t matter.

We all know the benefits of breastfeeding too, though. The bonding time with your baby is really unmatched. And, of course, it has all the nutrients (say that in Ignacio’s voice from Nacho Libre and if you haven’t seen it, go watch it!) So when I had my first baby, I was hella determined to exclusively breastfeed. I had read all I had to read and was just ready to do it. So out comes Neela and she screamed for about a week straight. The poor thing was starving and I was a depressed mess. But the stubborn bitch in me wouldn’t let it go and we finally got it right after a few weeks. I breastfed her for 2 and a half years.

My second baby was waaayy easier. Since my body was already warmed up (I just pretty much switched from breastfeeding Neela to her), she was able to get milk straight away and she was just the fattest baby. I was done after a year, though. A combination of wanting to get drunk at a wedding, plus just being fed up with having my nipples pulled at for almost 4 years straight just did it for me. So I weaned her when she was about a year and a half.

Now let’s fast forward to little Onyx. We’ve been breastfeeding for 5 months and let me tell you. You would think I’m a newbie mom. First off, my milk took a bit to come in, so just like Neela, he was starving for a while and lost a bunch of weight the first couple of days. But when we finally got into the groove of things, my body went into this crazy milk-producing mode and I had A LOT of milk coming in. With that came an overactive letdown, so he was pretty much drowning every time he ate. He was pissed. Whenever he would eat, he would start choking and sputtering milk everywhere and I think it just put him off. How can you have an enjoyable experience at your favorite (and only) restaurant when the food is literally shoved down your throat? So I tried to reduce my milk production, but I think I made things worse. It slowed down terribly and now that it's starting to pick up again, it's too late. There’s no comfort feeding. No chillin on the bed for a good episode of whatever I’m watching on Netflix (currently The Last Kingdom. I love you Uhtred of Bebenburg. Forever and always.) He’s strictly business. 10 minutes, tops. He’ll dine and dash. He’s like traumatized by the thousands of times he’s choked and won’t stay on any longer. And I’m kind of heartbroken and not sure what to do. If there’s any mommas who know what I’m going through, let me know how you dealt. But the lesson here is: even if you’ve had 2, 3, 4, 5 (you’re crazy) kids, each one is a unique experience and even OG moms can experience something new with each child. And with that, I’ll leave you with my favorite chocolate cake recipe, adapted from Add A Pinch’s recipe. Because there’s nothing better than good chocolate cake when you’re breastfeeding. And breastfeeding may not be a piece of cake, but eating a slice sure helps cope with the demand!

Chocolate Cake

2 C flour

3/4 C cocoa powder

1 C brown sugar

1 C white sugar

2 tsp baking powder

1.5 tsp of baking soda

1 tsp salt

1/2 C milk

1/2 C sour cream

1/2 C oil

2 eggs

2 tsp vanilla extract

1 C strong, boiling coffee

In a mixer, or by hand, sift all dry ingredients together in a big bowl. In another bowl, mix together milk, sour cream, oil, and eggs until well blended. Add to the dry ingredients and mix until just blended. Add hot coffee (carefully) to the mixture, little by little, until combined. Makes 2 9” rounds. Bake at 350 F for 30-35 minutes. You'll know it's done when you insert a toothpick/knife and it comes off clean or with few crumbs. Let it cool a bit and then proceed to putting fistfuls of cake into your mouth. You're welcome.


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